Who is my friend?

98% of workers have encountered redness in their careers.

Often times at a new workplace, you start wondering who the nice person might be. What is even better, is when you start thinking who is going to be of big help. Over time things get clearer and you get to see who is who. To master the game of befriending people you need to play it right the first time. People are emotionally driven beings so their feelings often times impact their jugement. A simple rule, never ever give people advice or highlight something wrong in their work in public. No one likes that. I have never encountered anyone that likes to be criticized in public, (neither do You). Some senior people tend to do that as a form of power, some have different agendas to play, and others just don’t know. Yet at any event it shows how shortsighted you are. The most common driver for this as well, is trying to show eagerness and enthusiasm and be loud about it in public, but hey you are stepping on your colleagues- soon enemies to be. At school, teachers are trained not to be nice. Because they want to help and pass the message, hence gain respect. Students like the teachers who are helpful and kind. Kindness is not about being easy on homework, but more on being human. Listening, trusting and exchanging respect. Regardless what the culture at work might be, you are what you are. Pace yourself to be the teacher you liked at school. Everybody has a narrative to push, so choose what story you want to tell. At HBR a study showed that 98% of workers have encountered redness at some point in their careers. This is massive and the level of negativity that this can lead into is staggering.

All in all be nice 😊